I thought I had mastered the message on my shirt: “Once you stop chasing happiness, you find it.”
It was a tough one for me to get through my stubborn head, but I finally did it during therapy a few years ago in Ohio. I totally believed it, and have lived it ever since.
I’d learned what I’m always telling you: Stop thinking you’ll only be happy once this, that, or the other happens (new job/house/boyfriend/weight loss etc.). How will you ever have happiness in your life right now if you believe it’s somewhere else?
But I never thought it applied to my now 7-month-long Meniere’s disease healing process until my current therapist mentioned it.
I had been telling her how frustrated I was with this long healing process; how I had so many plans for the year that had to be put on hold; and how I have wayyyy too much to do to just allow myself to rest and heal.
“You have to accept where you are now in the process” she told me. “You have to invite the healing, release resistance, and stop thinking you can only be happy once you’re well.”
I was like, wait… that sounds familiar… I know all this. And yet, I had missed it somehow.
I’d been thinking once I heal, then I can do this and that and get back on track with my original plans.
BUT. I got her message (my message re-learned) loud and clear, and I’m working on applying it to my healing journey. Which, by the way, has taught me so much, but I’ll save those lessons for another post.
For now, just remember to stop chasing happiness because it really is right in front of you.
And if you need other ideas on how to stay mentally healthy, find help here from my partner, Mental Health America.