The unexpected magic of 2020

⁠#MentalHealthMonday⁠⁠Remember when we were all enthralled by what would be 2020?! A new year, a new decade, a seemingly magical number... 20-20 Oh, the hopes and dreams we had!⁠⁠And then... it felt like a train wreck real fast.⁠⁠Things were unbearable when Covid hit. And escalated with everything going on with the racism in this country.⁠⁠If you're like me, you may be thinking that this is not the enchanting 2020 you had in mind! Not by a long shot.⁠⁠But when I was talking to my therapist about this recently, she challenged me into thinking that maybe 2020 IS magical, just in different ways than we imagined.⁠⁠Maybe the magic is in pushing ourselves as individuals and as a country. In the growth we are all experiencing this year. In learning what really matters.⁠⁠And maybe, just maybe... the magic is that we will end up with exactly what we need.⁠⁠One thing is for sure, these last few months have taken a toll on our collective mental health. So make sure you're taking care of yours.⁠⁠If you need some extra support right now, my partner @mentalhealthamerica can help with things like free screenings, referrals for mental health providers, and information on affordable treatment if you don’t have insurance. Just click on the link in my bio and go to the Mental Health America button.⁣⁣⁠⁠Take good care, friends. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠#ichoosebeauty #changeiscoming #changeispossible #historyinthemaking #mentalhealthsupport #mentalhealthtips #mentalhealthisimportant #mentalhealthcare #mentalhealthissues #mentalhealthadvice #mentalhealthjourney #mentalhealthisreal #mentalhealthwarriors #mentalwellness #mentalhealthawareness ⁣⁠ #mentalhealthhelp #mentalhealthcommunity

⁠⁠⁠Remember when we were all enthralled by what would be 2020?! A new year, a new decade, a seemingly magical number… 20-20… Oh, the hopes and dreams we had!⁠⁠

And then… it felt like a train wreck real fast.⁠⁠

Things were unbearable when Covid hit. And escalated with everything going on with the racism in this country.⁠⁠

If you’re like me, you may be thinking that this is not the enchanting 2020 you had in mind! Not by a long shot.⁠⁠

But when I was talking to my therapist about this recently, she challenged me into thinking that maybe 2020 IS magical, just in different ways than we imagined.⁠⁠

Maybe the magic is in pushing ourselves as individuals and as a country. In the growth we are all experiencing this year. In learning what really matters.

⁠⁠And maybe, just maybe… the magic is that we will end up with exactly what we need.⁠⁠

One thing is for sure, these last few months have taken a toll on our collective mental health. So make sure you’re taking care of yours.⁠⁠

If you need some extra support right now, my partner Mental Health America can help with things like free screenings, referrals for mental health providers, and information on affordable treatment if you don’t have insurance.

Take good care, friends. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Fighting racism as an empath

#MentalHealthMonday⁠⁠My heart is so heavy for all my Black family members, friends, and community. ⁠⁠The racism in this country is disgusting, but you know what shook me even more over the past few days? Seeing so many vile comments filled with hatred in places I never dreamed they’d be. I was flabbergasted, and my heart sank even more. But at least this brought racists out to the surface, right? So I know who I don't want in my life. ⁠⁠Like I learned years ago in therapy... we must have darkness to see the light. And this week, I can see that light in the unity, in the protests still going strong, and in the changes starting to happen.⁠⁠As an empath, I’m trying to find the balance between keeping up with what’s going on, using my energy to speak out and act, and resting so that I’m not completely depleted. ⁠⁠We must keep fighting against racism and police brutality. There's obviously a lot of work to do, and it's going to take all of us to make real change happen. But we must also take care of our mental health. ⁠⁠This is hard. This is heavy. It’s going to be a long road, and we can’t quit. So know that it's okay to take a break when you need one. I always find that when I do that, I come back even stronger. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠#ichoosebeauty #blacklivesmatter #protests #protesters #endracism #nomoreracism #changeiscoming #changeispossible #historyinthemaking #mentalhealthsupport #mentalhealthtips #mentalhealthisimportant #mentalhealthcare #mentalhealthissues #mentalhealthadvice #mentalhealthjourney #mentalhealthisreal #mentalhealthwarriors #mentalwellness #mentalhealthawareness ⁣⁠ #mentalhealthhelp #mentalhealthcommunity⁠

⁠⁠My heart is so heavy for all my Black family members, friends, and community. ⁠⁠

The racism in this country is disgusting, but you know what shook me even more over the past few days? Seeing so many vile comments filled with hatred in places I never dreamed they’d be. I was flabbergasted, and my heart sank even more. But at least this brought racists out to the surface, right? So I know who I don’t want in my life. ⁠⁠

Like I learned years ago in therapy… we must have darkness to see the light. And this week, I can see that light in the unity, in the protests still going strong, and in the changes starting to happen.⁠⁠

As an empath, I’m trying to find the balance between keeping up with what’s going on, using my energy to speak out and act, and resting so that I’m not completely depleted.

⁠⁠We must keep fighting against racism and police brutality. There’s obviously a lot of work to do, and it’s going to take all of us to make real change happen. But we must also take care of our mental health. ⁠⁠

This is hard. This is heavy. It’s going to be a long road, and we can’t quit. So know that it’s okay to take a break when you need one. I always find that when I do that, I come back even stronger. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Do something

It’s not enough to feel outraged about what happened to George Floyd. We must all DO SOMETHING. Whether it’s speaking up on social media, having the tough conversations with friends and family, or making a donation to organizations that are fighting racism. Do something. Change won’t happen without action.

A few suggestions:

  • Sign the #JusticeForFloyd petition. It calls for the four officers involved in his death to have their pensions revoked, be blocked from ever working in law enforcement again, and to be charged with murder. Signing the petition will send a letter to Mayor Jacob Frey and District Attorney Michael Freeman. Text FLOYD to 55156 to sign it.
  • Read AND do the work outlined in these books:

“White Fragility: Why It’s So Hard for White People to Talk About Racism”

“Me and White Supremacy”

❗Do not be silent. Use your voice. DO SOMETHING.❗

Mental Health Month: Creating Healthy Routines

My usual routines for exercising, eating healthy, and being consistent with my sleep have definitely fallen by the wayside lately… understandably. I’ve been giving myself grace, but I’m also trying to get back to some semblance of a routine – even if it looks different than it used to pre-pandemic – because I know how important it is for both my mental and physical health.⁠ ⁠

The great thing about routines, especially if you’re struggling mentally, is that they become like second nature, and make it easier to get things done without having to think too much. ⁠

To help you better incorporate healthy routines into your schedule, I want to share a worksheet with you from my partner, Mental Health America. It’s one of many tools available for Mental Health Month to help you make small changes that can really impact how you feel.⁠ ⁠ ⁣

This week’s exercises will help you identify your goals, find out what’s getting in your way of achieving them, and schedule them in a way that makes them attainable.⁣

To get the worksheet, download the free Mental Health Month Toolkit at mhanational.org/may, then look for the “Creating Healthy Routines” handout. ⁣⁠ ⁣

Other tips that can help: ⁣⁠ ⁣

  • Start small.⁠ Pick one little thing to work on each week. It could be adding something new and positive, or cutting out a bad habit.⁠ ⁠
  • Try to plan ahead.⁠ Life is uncertain right now, but try to stack the odds in your favor by doing things like prepping meals ahead of time or putting your workouts on a calendar.⁠ ⁣⁠
  • Reward yourself for small victories.⁠ When you reach your goal – no matter how small it is – take a few minutes to recognize it. You walked around the block for five minutes instead of doing nothing? Good job! High-five yourself to celebrate😆, do a happy dance to mark the accomplishment, or treat yourself to something you enjoy. ⁠

Personally, my walks have been so sporadic lately, I’ve been sleeping way more than usual, and my diet is definitely not as clean as it usually is. Like I said, I’m giving myself grace… and taking tiny steps towards routines that I know will help me feel better.

Mental Health Month: Owning your feelings

#MENTALHEALTHMONTH: [Owning your feelings]⁣⁠⁣⁠⁣⁠⁣⁠The pandemic has brought up so many different emotions for all of us: fear, sadness, loneliness, etc. No matter what you've experienced over the past few weeks, owning those feelings will help you work through them... and feel better.⁠⁣⁠⁠⁣⁠To help you process those feelings, I want to share a worksheet with you from my partner @mentalhealthamerica. It's part of Mental Health Month's tools available to help you make small changes that can have a big impact on your mental health.⁠⁣⁠⁠⁣⁠⁣️This week's exercises will guide you on how to identify what you're experiencing, which can then help you feel better and improve your communications and relationships⁠ with others.⁠️⁣⁠⁠⁣⁠️To get the worksheet, click on the link in my bio and go to the "Mental Health Month Toolkit" button. Download the free kit, then look for the "Owning your feelings" handout. ⁣⁠⁣⁠⁣⁠⁣⁠Other tips that can help: ⁣⁠⁣⁠⁣⁠⁣⁠Allow yourself to feel. ⁠⁣⁠Ignore societal pressures that encourage you to shut down your emotions - they're outdated and can be harmful. You have every right to feel your feelings.⁠⁣⁠⁠⁣⁠⁣Talk it out. ⁠⁣⁠Talk to someone you trust about how you’re feeling, whether it's someone who's going through something similar, or someone you can lean on that's a great listener. ⁠⁣⁠⁣⁠⁣⁠Try journaling. ⁠⁣⁠Every night, write down at least three feelings you had that day and what caused them. It'll help you practice being comfortable with identifying and expressing your emotions.⁠⁣⁠⁣⁠⁣⁠Learning to identify my feelings and allowing myself to feel them was really hard for me for a long time. But it ended up helping me so much, and it definitely gets easier with practice. ⁠⁣⁠⁠⁣⁠⁠⁣⁠⁠⁣⁠⁠⁣⁠⁠⁣⁠⁠⁣⁠⁠⁣⁠⁠⁣⁠#ichoosebeauty #mhm2020 #mentalhealthsupport #mentalhealthtips #mentalhealthisimportant #mentalhealthcare #mentalhealthissues #mentalhealthadvice #mentalhealthjourney #mentalhealthisreal #mentalhealthwarriors #mentalwellness #mentalhealthawareness ⁣⁠ #mentalhealthhelp #mentalhealthcommunity #coronaviruspandemic #coronaviruschallenge #pandemic2020 #coronapandemic #lifeinthetimeofcorona #covid2020

⁣⁠⁣⁠⁣⁠⁣⁠The pandemic has brought up so many different emotions for all of us: fear, sadness, loneliness, etc. No matter what you’ve experienced over the past few weeks, owning those feelings will help you work through them… and feel better.⁠⁣⁠⁠⁣⁠

To help you process those feelings, I want to share a worksheet with you from my partner, Mental Health America. It’s part of Mental Health Month’s tools available to help you make small changes that can have a big impact on your mental health.⁠⁣⁠⁠⁣⁠⁣️

This week’s exercises will guide you on how to identify what you’re experiencing, which can then help you feel better and improve your communications and relationships⁠ with others.⁠️⁣⁠⁠⁣⁠️

To get the worksheet, download the free Mental Health Month Toolkit at mhanational.org/may, then look for the “Owning your feelings” handout.

⁣⁠⁣⁠⁣⁠⁣⁠Other tips that can help: ⁣⁠⁣⁠⁣⁠⁣⁠

  • Allow yourself to feel. ⁠⁣⁠Ignore societal pressures that encourage you to shut down your emotions – they’re outdated and can be harmful. You have every right to feel your feelings.
  • ⁠⁣⁠⁠⁣⁠⁣Talk it out. ⁠⁣⁠Talk to someone you trust about how you’re feeling, whether it’s someone who’s going through something similar, or someone you can lean on that’s a great listener.
  • ⁠⁣⁠⁣⁠⁣⁠Try journaling. ⁠⁣⁠Every night, write down at least three feelings you had that day and what caused them. It’ll help you practice being comfortable with identifying and expressing your emotions. If you need prompts to guide you, my “Finding Hope” journal can help.

⁠⁣⁠⁣⁠⁣⁠Learning to identify my feelings and allowing myself to feel them was really hard for me for a long time. But it ended up helping me so much, and it definitely gets easier with practice.

Mental Health Month: Finding the positive after loss

#MENTALHEALTHMONTH: [Finding the positive after loss]We've all lost things during the Covid pandemic: whether it's being with loved ones, our usual routines, income, school, big events, etc.So how do we find the positive after loss?All month long, I'll share free worksheets from my partner @mentalhealthamerica as part of Mental Health Month's #Tools2Thrive theme - tools to help you make small changes that have a big impact on your mental health. This week's exercises will help you look for the good, and show you how to rethink difficult situations. ️Click on the link in my bio and go to the "Mental Health Month Toolkit" button. Download the free kit, then look for the "Finding the Positive After Loss" handout.️ Other tips to help you get by: Try to see your experience as strength.Going through the pain of the pandemic can make us stronger. Learning to carry on helps give us the coping skills we need right now, and they'll also help us with tough times in the future..Do things that make you happy.Pampering yourself can help you remember how to feel good after dealing with a difficult situation, and bring you back to a place where you can appreciate all the positive things life has to offer. Choose something that makes you feel good... whatever that may be. Don’t be afraid to get help.It’s normal to have trouble adjusting to life during these uncertain times, but if you can’t seem to function or just don’t know how to feel better, get help. Ask your primary care provider for a mental health professional referral. If you don’t have insurance, look for services with payment assistance at samhsa.gov/find-treatment.I'm right there with you, friends. This is a tough time for us all.Take good care, xx Sahar ️ #ichoosebeauty #mhm20 #coronaviruspandemic #coronaviruschallenge #coronapandemic #pandemic2020 #feelyourfeelings #lookforthelight #healingjourney #healingtools #healingyourself #healingfromwithin #healingpower #mentalhealthsupport #mentalhealthisimportant #mentalhealthtips #mentalhealthhelp #mentalhealthjourney #mentalhealthcare #mentalhealthadvice #mentalhealthisreal #mentalhealthcommunity #mentalwellness #mentalhealthishealth

We’ve all lost things during the Covid pandemic: whether it’s being with loved ones, our usual routines, income, school, big events, etc.

So how do we find the positive after loss?

All month long, I’ll share free worksheets from my partner, Mental Health America as part of Mental Health Month’s #Tools2Thrive theme – tools to help you make small changes that have a big impact on your mental health. This week’s exercises will help you look for the good, and show you how to rethink difficult situations. ️

Download the free Mental Health Month Toolkit at mhanational.org/may, then look for the “Finding the Positive After Loss” handout.

Other tips to help you get by:

  • Try to see your experience as strength. Going through the pain of the pandemic can make us stronger. Learning to carry on helps give us the coping skills we need right now, and they’ll also help us with tough times in the future..
  • Do things that make you happy. Pampering yourself can help you remember how to feel good after dealing with a difficult situation, and bring you back to a place where you can appreciate all the positive things life has to offer. Choose something that makes you feel good… whatever that may be.
  • Don’t be afraid to get help. It’s normal to have trouble adjusting to life during these uncertain times, but if you can’t seem to function or just don’t know how to feel better, get help. Ask your primary care provider for a mental health professional referral. If you don’t have insurance, look for services with payment assistance at samhsa.gov/find-treatment.

I’m right there with you, friends. This is a tough time for us all.

Take good care,

Mental Health Month: Free screenings

As we kick off #MentalHealthMonth today, all I can think is how the entire world needs this right now. With all of us facing some kind of distress from the coronavirus pandemic, a month to focus on our mental health couldn't come at a better time.⁠⁠Throughout May, I'll be sharing lots of tools, inspiration, and maybe even some surprises.  But today, let's start with something that could help you right now if you're struggling with your mental health: a screening from my partner, @mentalhealthamerica (MHA).⁠⁠It's a quick and easy way to determine whether you're experiencing symptoms of a mental health condition. It's free, confidential, and anonymous. Once you have your results, MHA will give you information and resources to help you feel better.⁠⁠Just go to mhascreening.org to get started.⁠⁠Let's normalize talking about mental health this month and always, you guys! It should absolutely be normal to take a mental health screening,, just as it is to take one for health conditions like heart disease or diabetes.⁠⁠You know I'm an open book about mental health, and hope that by sharing my journey, it helps someone who maybe hasn't been able to speak out or doesn't know what they're actually going through (that was me at one time). It' has always been my goal to let you know that you are not alone, that you can feel better, and that there's nothing wrong with getting help. ⁠⁠Please reach out if you have any questions. xx Sahar⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠#ichoosebeauty #tools2thrive #mhm20 #MillionInMay #coronaviruspandemic #coronaviruschallenge #coronapandemic #pandemic2020 #feelyourfeelings #anxietysupport #anxietymanagement #anxietyisreal #lookforthelight #healingjourney #healingtools #healingyourself #healingfromwithin #healingpower #mentalhealthsupport #mentalhealthisimportant #mentalhealthtips #mentalhealthhelp #mentalhealthjourney #mentalhealthcare #mentalhealthadvice #mentalhealthisreal #mentalhealthcommunity #mentalwellness #mentalhealthishealth

As we kick off Mental Health Month today, all I can think is how the entire world needs this right now. With all of us facing some kind of distress from the coronavirus pandemic, a month to focus on our mental health couldn’t come at a better time.⁠⁠

Throughout May, I’ll be sharing lots of tools, inspiration, and maybe even some surprises. But today, let’s start with something that could help you right now if you’re struggling with your mental health: a screening from my partner, Mental Health America (MHA).⁠⁠

It’s a quick and easy way to determine whether you’re experiencing symptoms of a mental health condition. It’s free, confidential, and anonymous. Once you have your results, MHA will give you information and resources to help you feel better.⁠⁠

Just go to mhascreening.org to get started.⁠⁠

Let’s normalize talking about mental health this month and always, you guys! It should absolutely be normal to take a mental health screening,, just as it is to take one for health conditions like heart disease or diabetes.⁠⁠

You know I’m an open book about mental health, and hope that by sharing my journey, it helps someone who maybe hasn’t been able to speak out or doesn’t know what they’re actually going through (that was me at one time). It’ has always been my goal to let you know that you are not alone, that you can feel better, and that there’s nothing wrong with getting help.

⁠⁠Please reach out if you have any questions.

Connecting during the Covid quarantine

#MentalHealthMonday⁠⁠Through the ups and downs of the quarantine/isolation.... interestingly, connection can be both an "up" and a "down." It's obviously hard not being together in-person like we're used to, but let's look at how we CAN connect right now.⁠⁠I feel so blessed that we live in a time where technology makes it so easy to communicate with each other, even while we're forced to be apart: email, text, social media, video chats, virtual meetings, emojis, memes, GIFS, etc. I can’t imagine going through this crisis without all of these things (and more) at my fingertips. 🦄⁠⁠I've been able to connect with all of you here, with my friends and family who aren't on social media, with everyone who helps me keep my website running smoothly, with my Beautycounter team, with my therapist... and more!⁠⁠I'm not saying we don't need that in-person connection - we most definitely DO! But during a time where we can't have it, I'm so grateful these other forms of communication exist. ⁠⁠‍‍‍How about you? What connections are you grateful for right now?  Share them in the comments below! ️⁠⁠Remember, whatever you’re feeling during this time is valid. But... if you're really struggling with your mental health, please get help: ⁠⁠My partner, @mentalhealthamerica has a Crisis Text Line with Crisis Counselors ready to help you cope. Text MHA to 741741.⁠⁠MHA also has a new website with lots of resources and information to help during the pandemic. Just click on the link in my bio and go to the "Mental Health America COVID-19 Support" button.⁠⁠Take good care. xx⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠#ichoosebeauty #coronaviruspandemic #coronaviruschallenge #coronapandemic #pandemic2020 #feelyourfeelings #anxietysupport #anxietymanagement #anxietyisreal #lookforthelight #healingjourney #healingtools #healingyourself #healingfromwithin #healingpower #mentalhealthsupport #mentalhealthisimportant #mentalhealthtips #mentalhealthhelp #mentalhealthjourney #mentalhealthcare #mentalhealthadvice #mentalhealthisreal #mentalhealthcommunity #mentalwellness #mentalhealthishealth⁠

Through the ups and downs of the quarantine/isolation…. interestingly, connection can be both an “up” and a “down.” It’s obviously hard not being together in-person like we’re used to, but let’s look at how we CAN connect right now.

⁠⁠I feel so blessed that we live in a time where technology makes it so easy to communicate with each other, even while we’re forced to be apart: email, text, social media, video chats, virtual meetings, emojis, memes, GIFS, etc. I can’t imagine going through this crisis without all of these things (and more) at my fingertips. 🦄

⁠⁠I’ve been able to connect with all of you here, with my friends and family who aren’t on social media, with everyone who helps me keep my website running smoothly, with my Beautycounter team, with my therapist… and more!⁠⁠

I’m not saying we don’t need that in-person connection – we most definitely DO! But during a time where we can’t have it, I’m so grateful these other forms of communication exist. ⁠⁠‍‍‍

How about you? What connections are you grateful for right now? Share them in the comments over on this Instagram post! ️⁠⁠

Remember, whatever you’re feeling during this time is valid. But… if you’re really struggling with your mental health, please get help:

  • ⁠⁠My partner, Mental Health America (MHA) has a Crisis Text Line with Crisis Counselors ready to help you cope. Text MHA to 741741.⁠⁠
  • MHA also has a new website with lots of resources and information to help during the pandemic here.⁠⁠

Take good care,⁠⁠

Mental health phases of the pandemic

#MentalHealthMonday⁠⁠Every week into this pandemic feels like another beginning of a new phase to me. Not necessarily a cut and dry phase... more like what you feel after experiencing trauma and grief - you have various feelings that will continue to come and go in waves over time.⁠⁠I was able to manage my anxiety better last week, and felt myself surrender to the situation and the changes it brought. But I still felt paralyzed and overwhelmed about how to move forward after losing significant income, etc.⁠⁠This week, I see more clearly, at least today I do. I can envision the beginning of a new plan, and have a little more hope, a little more confidence, a little more faith.⁠⁠If I were to use 3 emojis to describe my current feelings, they would be these: 🏽⁠⁠🏽How about you? Which 3 emojis best sum up how you’re feeling today? Drop them in the comments below! 🏽⁠⁠Remember, whatever you’re feeling during this time is normal. But... if you're really struggling with your mental health, please get help: ⁠⁠My partner, @mentalhealthamerica has a Crisis Text Line with Crisis Counselors ready to help you cope. Text MHA to 741741. ⁠⁠MHA also has a new website with lots of resources and information to help during the pandemic. Just click on the link in my bio and go to the "Mental Health America COVID-19 Support" button.⁠⁠Take good care. xx⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠#ichoosebeauty #coronaviruspandemic #coronaviruschallenge #coronapandemic #pandemic2020 #feelyourfeelings #anxietysupport #anxietymanagement #anxietyisreal #lookforthelight #healingjourney #healingtools #healingyourself #healingfromwithin #healingpower #mentalhealthsupport #mentalhealthisimportant #mentalhealthtips #mentalhealthhelp #mentalhealthjourney #mentalhealthcare #mentalhealthadvice #mentalhealthisreal #mentalhealthcommunity #mentalwellness #mentalhealthishealth⁠

⁠⁠Every week into this pandemic feels like another beginning of a new phase to me. Not necessarily a cut and dry phase… more like what you feel after experiencing trauma and grief – you have various feelings that will continue to come and go in waves over time.

⁠⁠I was able to manage my anxiety better last week, and felt myself surrender to the situation and the changes it brought. But I still felt paralyzed and overwhelmed about how to move forward after losing significant income, etc.⁠⁠

This week, I see more clearly, at least today I do. I can envision the beginning of a new plan, and have a little more hope, a little more confidence, a little more faith.⁠⁠

If I were to use 3 emojis to describe my current feelings, they would be these: 🙏💪🏽😫⁠

How about you? Which 3 emojis best sum up how you’re feeling today? Drop them in the comments over on Instagram here.

⁠⁠Remember, whatever you’re feeling during this time is normal. But… if you’re really struggling with your mental health, please get help: ⁠⁠

  • My partner, Mental Health America (MHA) has a Crisis Text Line with Crisis Counselors ready to help you cope. Text MHA to 741741. ⁠⁠
  • MHA also has a new website with lots of resources and information to help during the pandemic here.

Take good care,

2 things that helped reduce my pandemic anxiety

#MentalHealthMonday⁠⁠How are you doing this week? Are you starting to adjust to the new strange "normal"?⁠⁠I feel like I'm finally surrendering to the situation, and had a little less anxiety last week. ⁠⁠Two changes I made:⁠⁠I let myself rest more. My body needed it, and I slept a lot. I gave myself grace, and put off a few things I needed to do that could wait. ⁠⁠I cut way back on the time I was spending consuming the news about the pandemic. When things were first coming to light, I was checking the news constantly throughout the day. That was not good for me! I'm now trying to check in just a couple of times a day... and avoiding reading anything about the pandemic when I'm about to go to bed. That was another bad idea. ⁠⁠I will keep sharing what's helping me during this time in case it helps you, too. ⁠⁠Now, tell me... what's been helping you? Please share in the comments so we can get ideas from each other. 🏽⁠⁠Please note: If you need extra support right now, my partner, @mentalhealthamerica has a Crisis Text Line with Crisis Counselors ready to help you cope. Text MHA to 741741. ⁠ ⁠⁠MHA also has a new website with lots of resources and information to help during the pandemic. Just click on the link in my bio and go to the "Mental Health America COVID-19 Support" button.⁠⁠Take good care. xx⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠#ichoosebeauty #covid19news #covid19usa #coronaviruspandemic #coronaviruschallenge #coronapandemic #pandemic2020 #anxietysupport #anxietymanagement #anxietyisreal #lookforthelight #healingjourney #healingtools #healingyourself #healingfromwithin #healingpower #mentalhealthsupport #mentalhealthisimportant #mentalhealthtips #mentalhealthhelp #mentalhealthjourney #mentalhealthcare #mentalhealthadvice #mentalhealthisreal #mentalhealthcommunity #mentalwellness #mentalhealthishealth

⁠⁠How are you doing this week? Are you starting to adjust to the new strange “normal”?⁠⁠

I feel like I’m finally surrendering to the situation, and had a little less anxiety last week. ⁠⁠

Two changes I made:

  • ⁠⁠I let myself rest more. My body needed it, and I slept a lot. I gave myself grace, and put off a few things I needed to do that could wait.
  • ⁠⁠I cut way back on the time I was spending consuming the news about the pandemic. When things were first coming to light, I was checking the news constantly throughout the day. That was not good for me! I’m now trying to check in just a couple of times a day… and avoiding reading anything about the pandemic when I’m about to go to bed. That was another bad idea.

⁠⁠I will keep sharing what’s helping me during this time in case it helps you, too.

⁠⁠Please note: If you need extra support right now, my partner, Mental Health America has a Crisis Text Line with Crisis Counselors ready to help you cope. Text MHA to 741741. ⁠ ⁠⁠

MHA also has a new website with lots of resources and information to help during the pandemic here.

⁠⁠Take good care.

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COVID-19 Mental Health Resources

#MentalHealthMonday⁠⁠As COVID-19 changes life as we know it, it can easily create a lot of stress, anxiety, and overwhelm.⁠⁠Whether the pandemic has you concerned about your health, your loved ones' health, your finances, schools closing, cancelled trips and plans, and everything else that keeps changing several times a day... please remember that your feelings are valid, and that you're not alone. It's a lot to take on. ⁠⁠If you need extra support right now, I want to share a few resources that can help:⁠⁠My partner, @mentalhealthamerica has a Crisis Text Line with Crisis Counselors ready to help you cope. Text MHA to 741741. ⁠⁠Also, @mentalhealthamerica and @shinetext launched a new website filled with tools, free meditations, Q&As with experts, and info to help support your mental health during the coronavirus pandemic: virusanxiety.com⁠⁠And lastly, if you just want a way to feel a little more positive every day, my free 30-day #ichoosebeauty Challenge is still available. It’s a guided beauty treasure hunt to help you focus on the simple things in life and find one good thing each day, even in the midst of the COVID-19 chaos. Link to sign up is in my bio.⁠⁠I hope these tools are helpful to you. Please share them with anyone you think might need them.⁠⁠We're all in this together, friends. Love you.⁠⁠xx Sahar⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠#ichoosebeauty #covid #covid19 #coronaviruspandemic #anxietysupport #anxietymanagement #anxietyisreal #mentalhealthsupport #mentalhealthisimportant #mentalhealthtips #mentalhealthhelp #mentalhealthjourney #mentalhealthcare #mentalhealthadvice #mentalhealthisreal #mentalhealthcommunity #mentalwellness #mentalhealthishealth #lookforthelight #healingjourney #healingtools #healingyourself #healingfromwithin #healingpower #hearthealing

⁠⁠As COVID-19 changes life as we know it, it can easily create a lot of stress, anxiety, and overwhelm.⁠⁠

Whether the pandemic has you concerned about your health, your loved ones’ health, your finances, schools closing, cancelled trips and plans, and everything else that keeps changing several times a day… please remember that your feelings are valid, and that you’re not alone. It’s a lot to take on. ⁠⁠

If you need extra support right now, I want to share a few resources that can help:

  • ⁠⁠My partner, Mental Health America has a Crisis Text Line with Crisis Counselors ready to help you cope. Text MHA to 741741. ⁠⁠
  • Also, Mental Health America and Shine Text launched a new website filled with tools, free meditations, Q&As with experts, and info to help support your mental health during the coronavirus pandemic: virusanxiety.com⁠⁠
  • And lastly, if you just want a way to feel a little more positive every day, my free 30-day #ichoosebeauty Challenge is still available. It’s a guided beauty treasure hunt to help you focus on the simple things in life and find one good thing each day, even in the midst of the COVID-19 chaos. Sign up here or in the box below.

I hope these tools are helpful to you. Please share them with anyone you think might need them.⁠⁠

We’re all in this together, friends.

Love you.⁠⁠ xx Sahar⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Noticing beauty does not mean life is perfect

#MentalHealthMonday⁠⁠You know I always keep things real here on social media, so I just wanted to remind you that what you see in my feed is one good thing I notice and photograph each day. It does not mean that every day is rainbows and butterflies and perfection. So please don't think that, and don't think yours should be either. ⁠⁠Also, know that finding beauty does not mean ignoring your feelings and pretending everything is rosy. You have to process your stuff to ever start to heal. There's absolutely no way I could see any beauty in my life several years ago when I was at my worst with my depression... and that's okay. Things were too raw, and I had to deal with them first.⁠⁠So do the hard work, go to a therapist, take medication if you need it. ⁠⁠Then when you're ready, start noticing the beauty that is all around you. It really will help boost your mood. I'm living proof. Annddd, it has solid scientific research backing it. ⁠⁠I also highly recommend browsing through all the mental health resources my partner @mentalhealthamerica has on its website. Just click on the link in my bio and go to the Mental Health America button.⁣⁣⁠⁠As always, please reach out if you have any questions or want to chat. xx⁠⁠ @manal_murangi⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠#ichoosebeauty #littlethingsmatter #beautyinlife #noticethelittlethings #itsthelittlethings #simplethings #itsthelittlethingsinlife #simplethingsinlife #momentsoflife #beautyiseverywhere #lookaround #healingjourney #healingtools #healingyourself #healingfromwithin #healingpower #hearthealing #mentalhealthtips #mentalhealthhelp #mentalhealthjourney #mentalhealthishealth #mentalhealthcommunity #mentalhealthadvice #mentalhealthisreal #mentalwellness⁣⁣⁣⁣⁠ ⁠

You know I always keep things real on social media, so I just wanted to remind you that what you see in my feed is one good thing I notice and photograph each day. It does not mean that every day is rainbows and butterflies and perfection. So please don’t think that, and don’t think yours should be either. ⁠⁠

Also, know that finding beauty does not mean ignoring your feelings and pretending everything is rosy. You have to process your stuff to ever start to heal. There’s absolutely no way I could see any beauty in my life several years ago when I was at my worst with my depression… and that’s okay. Things were too raw, and I had to deal with them first.⁠⁠

So do the hard work, go to a therapist, take medication if you need it. ⁠⁠

Then when you’re ready, start noticing the beauty that is all around you. It really will help boost your mood. I’m living proof. Annddd, it has solid scientific research backing it. 😉

⁠⁠I also highly recommend browsing through all the mental health resources my partner, Mental Health America has here on its website.⁣⁣⁠⁠

As always, please reach out if you have any questions or want to chat. xx⁠⁠

The self-love struggle

#MentalHealthMonday⁠⁠Anyone else struggle with self-love?⁠⁠It's something I've been working on a lot in therapy over the past several months.⁠⁠It's easy to be hard on ourselves when we mess up, when something doesn't go the way we think it should, or when we're sick.⁠⁠I wasn't able to do much physically for most of 2019 because of my vertigo and upper cervical injury. And honestly, I'm having a hard time with the results. I've put on some pounds, I can't do everything I want to do, and I'm still healing almost a year later, even though I feel like I should've been 100% cured months ago, dang it! ⁠⁠But I've learned to ask, "What is this teaching me?"⁠⁠We all go through different seasons in our lives, and there's almost always something to learn from the changes.⁠⁠This season has taught me surrender, acceptance, grace... and that I need to work harder at self-love.⁠⁠Love yourself right now. No matter what you're going through, no matter how different you think things should be, no matter how hard it is. ⁠⁠Love yourself unconditionally. ⁠⁠Yes, I'm telling myself to do the same. ️⁠⁠It's definitely an important part of staying mentally healthy. And if you need more ideas, my partner @mentalhealthamerica can help. Just click on the link in my bio and go to the Mental Health America button.⁣⁣⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠#ichoosebeauty #takegoodcare #giveyourselfabreak #giveyourselfgrace #giveyourselfpermission #selflovejourney #selflovematters #selflovefirst #selflovetips #selfloveiskey #selfloveisthebestlove #selfloveadvocate #healingjourney #healingtools #healingyourself #healingfromwithin #healingpower #hearthealing #mentalhealthtips #mentalhealthhelp #mentalhealthjourney #mentalhealthishealth #mentalhealthcommunity #mentalhealthadvice #mentalhealthisreal #mentalwellness⁣⁣⁣⁣⁠ ⁠

Anyone else struggle with self-love?⁠⁠

It’s something I’ve been working on a lot in therapy over the past several months.

⁠⁠It’s easy to be hard on ourselves when we mess up, when something doesn’t go the way we think it should, or when we’re sick.

⁠⁠I wasn’t able to do much physically for most of 2019 because of my vertigo and upper cervical injury. And honestly, I’m having a hard time with the results. I’ve put on some pounds, I can’t do everything I want to do, and I’m still healing almost a year later, even though I feel like I should’ve been 100% cured months ago, dang it! ⁠⁠

But I’ve learned to ask, “What is this teaching me?”⁠⁠

We all go through different seasons in our lives, and there’s almost always something to learn from the changes.⁠⁠

This season has taught me surrender, acceptance, grace… and that I need to work harder at self-love.⁠⁠

Love yourself right now. No matter what you’re going through, no matter how different you think things should be, no matter how hard it is.

⁠⁠Love yourself unconditionally. ⁠⁠

Yes, I’m telling myself to do the same. ️

⁠⁠It’s definitely an important part of staying mentally healthy. And if you need more ideas, click here to get some good tips from my partner, Mental Health America.

Let’s talk about therapy

#MentalHealthMonday⁠⁠Let's talk about therapy.⁠⁠I'll start by saying that therapy has saved my life... more than once.⁠⁠It takes an extraordinary amount of deep work, but it's so worth it. ⁠⁠It's painful peeling back all those layers to get to the core and get in touch with your inner self. That's when you can really start to heal. There's so much rawness, truth, and navigating through past and current feelings and experiences. It can be both terrifying and enlightening. ⁠⁠What's incredible about therapy is that when you do the work and come out on the other side, you'll have learned more than you thought possible about your existence, your journey, yourself. For me, being that tuned in has been key to having a healthier relationship with myself and with others.⁠⁠Personally, I've done a few different types of therapy: Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), and long-term psychotherapy. All have had a place for me during different seasons of my life. ⁠⁠How to get started⁠⁠If you've never been to therapy before, your first task is to find a mental health professional who's a good fit for you; someone you feel comfortable with so that you can be open and honest. You may have to try more than one therapist - I've definitely had to do that a few times.⁠⁠Where to learn more⁠⁠My partner, @mentalhealthamerica has a great section on its website about the different types of therapy and mental health care available. To get to it, just click on the link in my bio and go to the Mental Health America button.⁣⁣⁠⁣⁠⁣ ⁠⁠As always, reach out if you have questions. xx⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠#ichoosebeauty #cbt #emdr #cognitivebehavioraltherapy #therapyworks #therapyiscool #psychotherapy #healingjourney #healingtools #healingyourself #healingfromwithin #healingpower #mentalhealthtips #mentalhealthhelp #mentalhealthjourney #mentalhealthishealth #mentalhealthcommunity #mentalhealthadvice #mentalhealthisreal #mentalwellness⁠

I’ll start by saying that therapy has saved my life… more than once.⁠⁠

It takes an extraordinary amount of deep work, but it’s so worth it. ⁠⁠

It’s painful peeling back all those layers to get to the core and get in touch with your inner self. That’s when you can really start to heal. There’s so much rawness, truth, and navigating through past and current feelings and experiences. It can be both terrifying and enlightening. ⁠⁠

What’s incredible about therapy is that when you do the work and come out on the other side, you’ll have learned more than you thought possible about your existence, your journey, yourself. For me, being that tuned in has been key to having a healthier relationship with myself and with others.⁠⁠

Personally, I’ve done a few different types of therapy: Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), and long-term psychotherapy. All have had a place for me during different seasons of my life. ⁠⁠

How to get started⁠⁠

If you’ve never been to therapy before, your first task is to find a mental health professional who’s a good fit for you; someone you feel comfortable with so that you can be open and honest. You may have to try more than one therapist – I’ve definitely had to do that a few times.⁠⁠

Where to learn more⁠⁠

My partner, Mental Health America, has a great section on its website about the different types of therapy and mental health care available. Get it here.⁣⁣⁣

⁠⁠As always, reach out if you have questions. xx⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Your thoughts determine how you feel

#MentalHealthMonday⁠⁠What we say to ourselves determines, in large part, our mood and feelings. So why do we continue to say crappy things to ourselves? Is it because we want to feel crappy on purpose?⁠⁠Of course not.⁠⁠Negative self-talk can be so automatic that you don't even notice it. What you notice instead is your mood and how you feel.⁠⁠I’ve worked on brain retraining a lot over the years to keep my negative thoughts away, but noticed them lately swirling and buzzing around in my head.⁠⁠I got out of practice. It happens from time to time. So I pulled out my trusty workbook and got back to work...⁠⁠The first step in reframing negative thinking is to become aware of the thoughts you’re having throughout the day. Once you’re in tune with the noise in your head, you can better control it. How empowering is it to know that we can control our thoughts?!⁣⁠⁠⁣Here’s an example: When you notice yourself thinking, “Nobody ever listens to me,” challenge yourself to look at the facts… and reframe the statement to something you would say to a friend who was having the same thought, like: “Even though this person doesn’t like my idea, other people do.” You’ll realize that it’s simply NOT TRUE that NOBODY listens to you; that it was just an incident with one person that may have upset you.⁣⁠⁠⁣It definitely takes practice, but once you get in the habit, you’ll be amazed at all the thoughts you notice, and can then change them to help you feel better. ⁠⁠If you want to try an exercise to help you reframe your negative thoughts, my partner, @mentalhealthamerica has a great worksheet to walk you through how to do just that. Just click on the link in my bio and go to the Mental Health America button.⁣⁣⁠⁣⁠⁣ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠#ichoosebeauty #selftalk #selftalkmatters #changeyourthoughts #changeyourthoughtschangeyourlife #cbt #cognitivebehavioraltherapy #therapyworks #positivepsychology #healingjourney #healingtools #healingyourself #healingfromwithin #healingpower #mentalhealthtips #mentalhealthhelp #mentalhealthjourney #mentalhealthishealth #mentalhealthcommunity #mentalhealthadvice #mentalhealthisreal #mentalwellness⁠⁠

⁠⁠What we say to ourselves determines, in large part, our mood and feelings. So why do we continue to say crappy things to ourselves? Is it because we want to feel crappy on purpose?

⁠⁠Of course not.⁠⁠

Negative self-talk can be so automatic that you don’t even notice it. What you notice instead is your mood and how you feel.⁠⁠

I’ve worked on brain retraining a lot over the years to keep my negative thoughts away, but noticed them lately swirling and buzzing around in my head.

⁠⁠I got out of practice. It happens from time to time. So I pulled out my trusty workbook and got back to work…⁠⁠

The first step in reframing negative thinking is to become aware of the thoughts you’re having throughout the day. Once you’re in tune with the noise in your head, you can better control it. How empowering is it to know that we can control our thoughts?!⁣⁠⁠⁣

Here’s an example: When you notice yourself thinking, “Nobody ever listens to me,” challenge yourself to look at the facts… and reframe the statement to something you would say to a friend who was having the same thought, like: “Even though this person doesn’t like my idea, other people do.” You’ll realize that it’s simply NOT TRUE that NOBODY listens to you; that it was just an incident with one person that may have upset you.⁣⁠⁠⁣

It definitely takes practice, but once you get in the habit, you’ll be amazed at all the thoughts you notice, and can then change them to help you feel better. ⁠⁠

If you want to try an exercise to help you change those negative thoughts into more positive ones, my partner, Mental Health America has a great worksheet to walk you through how to do just that. Get it here.

Mental Health crisis resources

#MentalHealthMonday⁠⁠There's been so much sadness around the world this month, including yesterday's Kobe and Gigi Bryant tragedy.⁠⁠Whether the news is too much to bear or you're struggling with something personally, know that you're not alone.⁠⁠I wanted to post this list of resources from my partner, @mentalhealthamerica so that you have it handy. Take a screenshot or just save it just in case you or someone you know may need to reach out for help.⁠⁠Love you, friends. xx⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠#RIPkobe #ichoosebeauty #yourenotalone #reachout #gethelp #healingjourney #healingtools #healingyourself #healingfromwithin #healingpower #hearthealing #takegoodcare #mentalhealthtips #mentalhealthhelp #mentalhealthjourney #mentalhealthishealth #mentalhealthcommunity #mentalhealthadvice #mentalhealthisreal #mentalwellness

⁠⁠There’s been so much sadness around the world this month, including yesterday’s Kobe and GiGi Bryant tragedy.

⁠⁠Whether the news is too much to bear or you’re struggling with something personally, know that you’re not alone.

⁠⁠I wanted to post this list of resources from my partner, Mental Health America so that you have it handy. Take a screenshot or just save it just in case you or someone you know may need to reach out for help.⁠⁠

Love you, friends. xx⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Fill your cup first

#MentalHealthMonday⁣⁣I've been spending the last few days filling my cup back up. Please remember to do the same. ⁣⁠⁣⁣⁠⁣You simply cannot pour from an empty cup.⁣⁠⁣⁣⁠⁣Self care is such an important part of being mentally healthy. If you need ideas on how to take good care of yourself, my partner @mentalhealthamerica has lots of valuable information. Just click on the link in my bio and go to the Mental Health America button.⁣⁣⁠⁣⁠⁣⁣⁠⁣⁣⁠⁣⁣⁠⁣⁣⁠⁣⁣⁠⁣⁣⁠⁣⁣⁠⁣⁣⁠⁣⁣⁠⁣#ichoosebeauty #selfcarehacks #selfcareday #selfcareroutine #selfcarematters #selfcarefirst #selfcaredaily #selfcareideas #selfcaretime #selfcareisnotselfish #healingjourney #healingtools #healingyourself #healingfromwithin #healingpower #hearthealing #takegoodcare #giveyourselfabreak #giveyourselfgrace #giveyourselfpermission #mentalhealthtips #mentalhealthhelp #mentalhealthjourney #mentalhealthishealth #mentalhealthcommunity #mentalhealthadvice #mentalhealthisreal #mentalwellness⁣⁣⁣⁣⁠

I’ve been spending the last few days filling my cup back up. Please remember to do the same. ⁣⁠⁣⁣⁠⁣

You simply cannot pour from an empty cup.⁣⁠⁣⁣⁠⁣

Self care is such an important part of being mentally healthy. If you need ideas on how to take good care of yourself, my partner Mental Health America has lots of valuable information. Just click here to get started.

How are you showing up for yourself this year?⁣⁣⁠

The big lessons I learned in 2019 were all about looking inward – knowing when to take more down time, really tuning in to both my mind and body, and paying more attention to my needs. ⁣⁣⁠

Trust me, these were difficult adjustments for me to make. After resisting for months, I finally surrendered. ⁣⁣⁠⁣⁠

Here are a few things I’ve been working on lately that are helping me get back to my true self. I hope they do the same for you: ⁣⁣⁠

  • Forgive yourself. You must do this to be able to let go and move forward.⁣⁣⁠
  • Pay closer attention to what you need, and give yourself more of that.
  • Stop worrying about what other people think. I still have to repeat this to myself almost daily.⁣⁣⁠
  • Let go of unbalanced relationships. I believe in giving people the benefit of the doubt… but if you’re constantly the one reaching out to someone, showing up for them and they’re not reciprocating, it may be time to rethink that relationship.⁣⁣⁠

I’m still working on all of these, and some need more effort than the rest. But I’m already noticing a difference. I’m finally more tuned in to my body and to what I need emotionally.

I hope this is helpful to you! And if you need other ideas on how to be mentally healthy, my partner, Mental Health America can help. Just click here to get started.

New Year doesn’t have to mean New You

#MentalHealthMonday⁣⁣⁣⁣If your new year isn't starting off with a bang, I feel you. And I want to remind you that it's completely okay.⁣⁣⁣⁣A couple of weeks ago I was feeling SO GOOD - my upper cervical pain was minimal and my energy was the best it’s been in months. It was like a sign that as 2019 came to an end, so would my healing! And that 2020 would be all about thriving, FINALLY!⁣⁣⁣⁣Then my body said NOPE. ⁣⁣⁣⁣I was so frustrated and sad. I desperately wanted a clean slate for the new year. I was beyond ready to move on from the pain and setbacks of 2019.⁣⁣⁣⁣Instead, I apparently had more lessons to learn:⁣⁣⁣⁣That life doesn’t necessarily have cut and dry ends and beginnings, as much as we’d like that.⁣⁣⁣⁣That sometimes one year spills into the next.⁣⁣⁣⁣That healing isn’t linear.⁣⁣⁣⁣That you don’t have to kick off the new year or new decade in a big way.⁣⁣⁣⁣My health has been such a struggle for 10 months now. I’m definitely getting better, but my healing didn't suddenly end December 31 with a brand new healthy me on January 1 like I wanted.⁣⁣⁣⁣After crying about my situation and being forced to spend days in bed yet again, I came to terms with it. Here's where I'm at: I'm healthier than I was last March, I'm continuing to heal and move forward, and that's what really matters. ⁣⁣⁣So remember, if you couldn't go for your big goals on January 1 for whatever reason, it's okay. You can start anytime. Your timeline doesn’t have to match up with the new year.⁣⁣⁣⁣And if you need ideas on how to be mentally healthy this year, my partner @mentalhealthamerica can help. Just click on the link in my bio and go to the Mental Health America button.⁣⁠⁣⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣#ichoosebeauty #healingjourney #healingtools #healingtrauma #healinglight #healingyourself #healingfromwithin #healingpower #hearthealing #trustyourjourney #trusttheuniverse #trustgodsplan #trusttheprocess #chronicpainlife #menieresdisease #recoveryjourney #injuryrecovery #mentalhealthtips #mentalhealthhelp #mentalhealthjourney #mentalhealthishealth #mentalhealthcommunity #mentalhealthadvice #mentalhealthisreal #mentalwellness⁣⁣#wordsofencouragement⁣⁣

If your new year isn’t starting off with a bang, I feel you. And I want to remind you that it’s completely okay.⁣⁣⁣⁣

A couple of weeks ago I was feeling SO GOOD – my upper cervical pain was minimal and my energy was the best it’s been in months. It was like a sign that as 2019 came to an end, so would my healing! And that 2020 would be all about thriving, FINALLY!⁣⁣⁣⁣

Then my body said NOPE. ⁣⁣⁣⁣

I was so frustrated and sad. I desperately wanted a clean slate for the new year. I was beyond ready to move on from the pain and setbacks of 2019.

⁣⁣⁣⁣Instead, I apparently had more lessons to learn:⁣⁣⁣⁣

That life doesn’t necessarily have cut and dry ends and beginnings, as much as we’d like that.⁣⁣⁣⁣

That sometimes one year spills into the next.⁣⁣⁣⁣

That healing isn’t linear.⁣⁣⁣⁣

That you don’t have to kick off the new year or new decade in a big way.⁣⁣⁣⁣

My health has been such a struggle for 10 months now. I’m definitely getting better, but my healing didn’t suddenly end December 31 with a brand new healthy me on January 1 like I wanted.⁣⁣⁣⁣

After crying about my situation and being forced to spend days in bed yet again, I came to terms with it. Here’s where I’m at: I’m healthier than I was last March, I’m continuing to heal and move forward, and that’s what really matters. ⁣⁣⁣

So remember, if you couldn’t go for your big goals on January 1 for whatever reason, it’s okay. You can start anytime. Your timeline doesn’t have to match up with the new year.

⁣⁣⁣⁣And if you need ideas on how to be mentally healthy this year, my partner Mental Health America can help. Just click here for more info.⁣⁠⁣⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

Time out during the holidays

#MentalHealthMonday⁣⁣Like many of you, my schedule is way off this time of year. Traveling, being sick, and managing my businesses for the holidays have totally thrown me off track, which is why my regular Monday posts have been... irregular. ⁣⁣But I’ve learned to adjust and recalibrate, and I wanted to remind you to do the same. ⁣⁣There’s a lot of hustling that comes with the holidays, so make sure you give yourself a little down time. Also, do something nice for yourself.⁣⁣And remember, if you’re struggling mentally, get help. It’s 1000% okay to do that. A great place to start is with a free screening from my partner, @mentalhealthamerica. Just click on the link in my bio, and go to the Mental Health America button.⁣⁣Happy Holidays, friends! I’ll be back with my regular #MentalHealthMonday posts in 2020 (how is it a new decade already??!)! xxoo

⁣⁣Like many of you, my schedule is way off this time of year. Traveling, being sick, and managing my businesses for the holidays have totally thrown me off track, which is why my regular Monday posts have been… irregular.

⁣⁣But I’ve learned to adjust and recalibrate, and I wanted to remind you to do the same. ⁣⁣

There’s a lot of hustling that comes with the holidays, so make sure you give yourself a little down time. Also, do something nice for yourself.⁣⁣

And remember, if you’re struggling mentally, get help. It’s 1000% okay to do that. A great place to start is with a free screening from my partner, Mental Health America.

Happy Holidays, friends! I’ll be back with my regular Mental Health Monday posts in 2020 (how is it a new decade already??!)! xxoo

Mental health and the holidays

#MentalHealthMonday⁣⁠⁣⁠I know how hard the holidays can be if you've recently lost a loved one or if you're struggling with something in your life right now. Not everything seems so merry and bright. In fact, this time of year can be the hardest. ⁣⁠⁣⁠So please take extra good care of yourself this holiday season. And remember, it's okay to not feel okay. ⁣⁠⁣⁠It's also okay to get help for your mental health if things in your life are too overwhelming. You do not have to go through this alone. ⁣⁠⁣⁠My partner, @mentalhealthamerica can help you get started. Just click on the link in my bio and go to the Mental Health America button.⁣⁠⁣⁣⁠⁣ #youarenotalone ⁣⁠⁣⁠⁣⁠⁣⁠⁣⁠⁣⁠⁣⁠⁣⁠⁣⁠⁣⁠#ichoosebeauty #gethelp #healingjourney #healingtools #healingtrauma #healinglight #healingyourself #healingfromwithin #healingpower #hearthealing #therapyworks #mentalhealthhelp #mentalhealthtips #mentalhealthisimportant #mentalhealthadvice #mentalhealthjourney #mentalwellness #mentaltraining #wordsofencouragement⁣⁠

⁣⁠⁣⁠I know how hard the holidays can be if you’ve recently lost a loved one or if you’re struggling with something in your life right now. Not everything seems so merry and bright. In fact, this time of year can be the hardest. ⁣⁠⁣⁠

So please take extra good care of yourself this holiday season. And remember, it’s okay to not feel okay.

⁣⁠⁣⁠It’s also okay to get help for your mental health if things in your life are too overwhelming. You do not have to go through this alone. ⁣⁠⁣⁠

My partner, Mental Health America, can help you get started. Just click here.

How to cope with anxiety

#MentalHealthMonday⁣⁣⁠⁣⁣⁠Let's talk about anxiety and what we can do to better cope with it.⁣⁣⁠⁣⁣⁠I've struggled with mild anxiety on and off for years. But lately, the combination of some life stuff and my health has led to a few severe panic attacks and a lot of anxiety, especially at night.⁣⁣⁠⁣⁣⁠I definitely don't have all the answers, but here's what's been helping me:⁣⁣⁠⁣⁣⁠Therapy - talking about what's causing my anxiety and working through it has helped me to better cope with it⁣⁣⁠⁣⁣⁠Deep breathing - I do this while counting backwards from 100 in threes to help re-focus my thoughts⁣⁣⁠⁣⁣⁠This grounding technique I recently learned - While I focus on my breathing, I notice 5 things I can see, 4 things I can touch/feel, 3 things I can hear, 2 things I can smell, and 1 thing I can taste⁣⁣⁠⁣⁣⁠@rescueremedyusa homeopathic Rescue Pastilles - they help to take the edge off a little, and I like that they're non-habit forming⁣⁣⁠⁣⁣⁠The @insighttimer app - it has lots of free soundscapes and guided meditations that have helped me sooooo much, especially when my mind is racing and I can't sleep⁣⁣⁠⁣⁣⁠The next thing I'm going to try is a weighted blanket - I'm hoping I can score a good deal on Black Friday! ⁣⁣⁠⁣⁣⁠Do you guys have any other suggestions? Share them below. ⁣⁣⁠⁣Also, you can take a screening to find out if you have an anxiety disorder, learn more about it, and find out how to get treated for it from my partner @mentalhealthamerica. Just click on the link in my bio and go to the Mental Health America button.⁣⁠⁣⁣⁠⁣ ⁣⁠⁣⁣⁠⁣⁣⁠⁣⁣⁠⁣⁣⁠⁣⁣⁠⁣⁣⁠⁣⁣⁠⁣⁣⁠⁣⁣⁠⁣⁠⁣⁣⁠#ichoosebeauty #anxietyissues #overcominganxiety #anxietyisreal #anxietytips #anxietydisorders #anxietymanagement #anxietyfighter #anxietyhelp #therapyworks⁣⁣⁠#healingjourney #healingtools #healingtrauma #healinglight #healingyourself #healingfromwithin #healingpower #hearthealing #mentalhealthtips #mentalhealthisimportant #mentalhealthadvice #mentalhealthjourney #mentalwellness #mentaltraining #wordsofencouragement

⁣⁣⁠⁣⁣⁠Let’s talk about anxiety and what we can do to better cope with it.

⁣⁣⁠⁣⁣⁠I’ve struggled with mild anxiety on and off for years. But lately, the combination of some life stuff and my health has led to a few severe panic attacks and a lot of anxiety, especially at night.⁣⁣⁠⁣⁣⁠

I definitely don’t have all the answers, but here’s what’s been helping me:⁣⁣⁠⁣⁣⁠

  • Therapy – talking about what’s causing my anxiety and working through it has helped me to better cope with it⁣⁣⁠⁣⁣⁠
  • Deep breathing – I do this while counting backwards from 100 in threes to help re-focus my thoughts⁣⁣⁠⁣⁣⁠
  • This grounding technique I recently learned – While I focus on my breathing, I notice 5 things I can see, 4 things I can touch/feel, 3 things I can hear, 2 things I can smell, and 1 thing I can taste
  • The Insight Timer app – it has lots of free soundscapes and guided meditations that have helped me sooooo much, especially when my mind is racing and I can’t sleep⁣⁣⁠⁣⁣⁠

The next thing I’m going to try is a weighted blanket – I’m hoping I can score a good deal on Black Friday!

⁣⁣⁠⁣⁣⁠You can take a screening to find out if you have an anxiety disorder, learn more about it, and find out how to get treated for it from my partner, Mental Health America here.

⁣⁠⁣⁠⁣⁠⁣⁠⁣⁠⁣⁠⁣⁠⁣⁠⁣⁠⁣⁠70,000 thoughts per day and how you can change them

⁣⁠⁣⁠Did you know that the average person has about 70,000 thoughts per day? 70 thousand!!! With that many thoughts, things can easily go very wrong in your mind… or very right. ⁣⁠⁣⁠

During Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), I learned so much about how our thoughts affect how we feel. But the incredible thing is we have complete control over those thoughts. How empowering is it to know that by changing your thoughts, you can change your mood?!⁣⁠⁣⁠

The key is to pay attention to all that background chatter going on in your head. Really listen to those thoughts… then reframe them. For example, when you notice yourself thinking something like, “I’ll never get this plan to work,” change it to: “I’m smart enough to figure out how to make this happen.” Instant mood lift. ⁣⁠⁣⁠

Trust me, I know this is one of those easier-said-than-done things. I have to work on it constantly. I’ve definitely gotten better at it, but it still takes a lot of practice to train my brain to think differently and stop the negative self-talk.⁣⁠⁣⁠

What are you telling yourself? Pay attention and adjust as needed.⁣

⁠⁣⁠TRY THIS:⁣⁠

If you want to try an exercise to help you change those negative thoughts into more positive ones, my partner, Mental Health America has a great worksheet to walk you through how to do just that. Get it here.

Why God brought my journey to Maui

"Why have you brought me here?" ⁣⁠⁣⁠I've asked God this question countless times over the past three and a half years since we moved to Maui.⁣⁠⁣⁠This island is beautiful, there's no doubt about it. My journey here, though, has been filled with triggers, trauma, and loneliness.⁣⁠⁣⁠But I've finally figured out why I'm here.⁣⁠⁣⁠To heal.⁣⁠⁣⁠From old and new distress. From physical illnesses I've been carrying for decades.⁣⁠⁣⁠And the aching loneliness? That's a gift. To make me sit in silence and deeply connect to my heart, my mind, my body.⁣⁠⁣⁠I believe that our move to Maui has been filled with endless chaos on purpose.⁣⁠⁣⁠It's forcing me to work through old trauma I'd buried down deep for decades. New hurt is teaching me to let go. And the physical pain is showing me how connected healing the body and mind really are. ⁣⁠⁣⁠I saw a quote the day I began my treatment for Meniere's disease, and think it speaks to my overall journey here:⁣⁠⁣⁠"This place where you are right now, God circled on a map for you." ~ Hafiz⁣⁠⁣⁠Thank you, Maui. I've tried to push you away, but now know how much I've needed you.⁣⁠⁣⁠⁣⁠⁣⁠⁣⁠⁣⁠⁣⁠⁣⁠⁣⁠⁣⁠#ichoosebeauty #MentalHealthMonday #healingjourney #healingtools #healingtrauma #healinglight #healingyourself #healingfromwithin #healingpower #hearthealing #trustyourjourney #trusttheuniverse #trustgodsplan #trusttheprocess #chronicpainlife #menieresdisease #recoveryjourney #injuryrecovery #mentalhealthtips #mentalhealthisimportant #mentalhealthadvice #mentalhealthjourney #mentalwellness #mentaltraining #wordsofencouragement #mauihawaii #mauilove

“Why have you brought me here?” ⁣⁠
⁣⁠
I’ve asked God this question countless times over the past three and a half years since we moved to Maui.⁣⁠
⁣⁠
This island is beautiful, there’s no doubt about it. My journey here, though, has been filled with triggers, trauma, and loneliness.⁣⁠
⁣⁠
But I’ve finally figured out why I’m here.⁣⁠
⁣⁠
To heal.⁣⁠
⁣⁠
From old and new distress. From physical illnesses I’ve been carrying for decades.⁣⁠
⁣⁠
And the aching loneliness? That’s a gift. To make me sit in silence and deeply connect to my heart, my mind, my body.⁣⁠
⁣⁠
I believe that our move to Maui has been filled with endless chaos on purpose.⁣⁠
⁣⁠
It’s forcing me to work through old trauma I’d buried down deep for decades. New hurt is teaching me to let go. And the physical pain is showing me how connected healing the body and mind really are. ⁣⁠
⁣⁠
I saw a quote the day I began my treatment for Meniere’s disease, and think it speaks to my overall journey here:⁣⁠
⁣⁠
“This place where you are right now, God circled on a map for you.” ~ Hafiz⁣⁠
⁣⁠
Thank you, Maui. I’ve tried to push you away, but now know how much I’ve needed you.⁣⁠

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